Sugar and Spice

Tag: Top tips

  • Top tips on how to get a woman to orgasm (or at least this woman) 

    1. Very few women orgasm through penetrative sex alone. If your woman does, then lucky you, feel free to skip this blog. If that’s not the case (which for most of you it won’t be) then accept the fact that it’s going to take a little time and effort on your behalf. It will be worth it though, I promise.  
    1. Ask you woman whether she prefers internal (g-spot) or external (clitoral) stimulation. She may like a combination of both; but may need one in order to be able to actually orgasm.  
    1. Don’t be afraid to use plenty of lube, especially if you’re focusing on the clitoris. Even if she’s already pretty wet (which hopefully she will be), lube will enhance the experience. If you don’t have lube, then make sure to use her natural lube from her pussy or your saliva to glide your fingers over her clit.  
    1. If you’re using your fingers inside her vagina, don’t just hold them straight and push them in and out (classic schoolboy error). Also don’t think that the more fingers you can shove in there the better….  just use one or two fingers to caress the front inner wall of her vagina using a come-hither motion, and hopefully you’ll be able to find her g-spot. It’s often not as far up as men think. 
    1. Don’t be offended if she needs a toy in order to come, this is quite normal and nothing personal. If she does use toys, I’d suggest that you ask her to show you how she uses them, and maybe just watch her the first time. Even with toys, there’ll be a knack. 
    1. Keep communicating with each other. Not necessarily dirty talk, unless she’s into that, but just check in with her and don’t be afraid to ask her whether she wants it harder/faster/ softer etc. Remember all women are different, what has worked in the past with other women, may not work with this one. Being able to communicate with your partner re what you like and what feels good is really important. 
    1. Reassure her/ make it clear that you’re enjoying the act of giving her pleasure. Some women can take a long time to orgasm and may feel self-conscious about this. If they feel like you’re not enjoying it, or they start to feel guilty about how long they’re taking, then they will probably get to you to stop, or worse they’ll fake it, and all your hard work will have been for nothing. 
    1. If your woman has not come during foreplay or sex, then ask her afterwards whether there’s anything you can do for her, or whether she needs to use a toy or something to finish herself off. Just because you’ve come and got what you’ve needed, don’t assume that it’s over. Now that the pressure’s off, she may be able to have her release; alternatively, she may be absolutely fine and perfectly satisfied, but it’s always nice to ask. 
    1. If a woman tells you that she doesn’t come, or isn’t going to come, don’t take this as a challenge, this isn’t about your ego; it just puts pressure on her, which is definitely not going to help the situation. This isn’t a ‘get out of jail free’ card though, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want foreplay or to be pleasured, she’s just managing your expectations and trying to take the pressure off you both. Do your best to give her as much pleasure as you can, and accept that she’s not going to orgasm, then if she does it will be a bonus, for both of you. 
    1. Don’t necessarily expect a woman to come the first time you sleep together. For lots of women, in order to be able to come, they need to be relaxed and feel able to let go. There’s often a level of intimacy and trust that needs to be developed first. Take your time and get to know her, and don’t try to rush the process. She’ll get there when she’s ready.    

    Oh, and if your woman is a squirter like me, don’t forget your wet weather gear! 

    Emily-Rose xxx

  • 10 things every Sugar Baby needs to know about being with older men…

    1) They get up to pee during the night, sometimes several times; so make sure they’re sleeping on the side of the bed nearest the loo.  

    2) You have to read the entire menu to them when you go out and they’ve forgotten their glasses. 

    3) They come with an entire drugs cabinet and a range of age-related health issues that you’ve never heard of.  

    4) It takes them forever to do up their shoelaces, they may require a 10-minute warning before leaving the house. 

    5) They will struggle with the small fiddly controls on your sex toys (seriously Lovehoney, you need to do an old people friendly range with big buttons and simple controls).  

    6) They often have dietary requirements, and a list of things they can’t eat anymore, usually due to cholesterol or high blood pressure. 

    7) They will reference things you’ve never heard of, and you’ll repeatedly have to remind them that whatever it was, it was before your time. 

    8) If you’re out in public together, people will assume he’s your dad (or grandad), then look at you with disgust when you sit on their lap. Alternatively, you may look like their carer (same response when you sit on their lap though). 

    9) They’ll try to take you to a restaurant, only to find out when you get there that it closed several years ago and is now a charity shop. 

    10) When they talk about how successful and wealthy their gorgeous children are (who just so happen to be the same age as you) you’ll look at your own life and want to cry. That one might just be a ‘me’ thing though…. 

    Emily-Rose xxx

  • Sugar Baby tips on surviving a meal at a fancy restaurant

    1) Research the restaurant and dress appropriately: you may be a hooker, but you don’t have to look like one. If in doubt, ask your sugar daddy whether he has any preferences. I have some that prefer me to dress conservatively in public, whilst others the complete opposite… 

    2) Don’t order anything that’s going to be messy or difficult to eat. I love langoustines, but don’t really want to be fiddling around with my food, so usually stick to something that arrives ready to eat. If you don’t like your food looking at you then maybe avoid the fish, you never know when it’s going to come complete with a head…. I’ve never been served chicken with its head still attached (just saying). 

    3) Avoid eating anything too heavy or filling, especially if you’re going to be getting naked and having sex afterwards; feeling full and bloated is not going to help get you in the mood, so try and keep it light.  

    4) Pace your drinking with your sugar daddy. You can drink less, or drink slower, but not more or faster! They may be trying to get you drunk, but you don’t want to be plastered; being paralytic is not a good look. 

    5) Don’t flirt with or eye up other men! Yes, you may be sat opposite some fat, balding 70-year-old, and the waiter is your dream guy, but he isn’t the one paying for your company. Your sugar daddy should be the only one you have eyes for. 

    6) Don’t wear shoes you can’t walk in ( general advice really); you’ll just look like an idiot. Plus, you never know when you might need to make a quick exit.  

    7) If you’re somewhere really fancy and you’re not sure what to do or how to behave, watch those around you and mimic them. In certain places you are expected to act a certain way; don’t embarrass yourself by getting it wrong. Read the room and act accordingly. 

    8) Always have some interesting topics of conversation or amusing stories at the ready. If you don’t know what to say, ask your sugar daddy questions about their successes in life or about something that you know they’re proud of. People love talking about themselves, and having a captive audience. If you’re lucky and ask the right questions, you won’t need to say much at all.   

    9. Don’t be tempted to look at the bill when it arrives. Yes, you may want to see how much your sugar daddy is spending on you, and how much your meal has cost; but it’s not classy to ask and you don’t need to know. You’re sugar daddy will take care of it; and it doesn’t matter how much it is because you’re worth every penny!

    10. Finally, don’t forget to show your sugar daddy that you appreciate being taken out and treated to the finer things in life; a little gratitude does a long way. Most sugar daddies get a lot of pleasure from knowing that they are making you happy, so let them know when they’re doing a good job.

    Emily-Rose xxx