I love my toys, I have a chest full of everything from butt plugs, strap ons and whips, along with a collection of restraints and leather cuffs; I’m a sucker for anything leather (or faux leather I should say).
I started experimenting with masturbation aides when I was about 15, using an electric toothbrush to bring myself off after seeing someone masturbating on tv with one. It worked surprisingly well, and I loved the feeling of having something electronic buzzing between my legs.
It wasn’t long until I upgraded to the classic rabbit, purple with colourful beads rotating around the shaft. The dildo part didn’t do much for me (I had yet to discover my g-spot), but those flicking ears against my clit sent me into ecstasy.
It wasn’t until I got my magic wand that I discovered I could squirt; which was exciting, if not a bit messy. I’m hardcore so have a mains-powered wand; I don’t fuck about when it comes to my orgasms. They’re not made to last though (not the way I use them), I think I’m on my fourth one now; which is annoying as they’re not exactly cheap…
I love being edged with my wand, but you have to be careful not to desensitise yourself. If you tease yourself for too long then it’s difficult to come, which can be really frustrating.
I don’t use my magic wand that much anymore, as I prefer the smaller, more compact clitoral stimulators these days. I’ll often use one of these with a g-spot vibrator, which is more than enough to do the trick.
For some reason I’ve never been able to make myself come with just my fingers, I’ve always required help, which is frustrating if I’m away (on my own) without my toys and feeling horny. Using the shower head is pretty good, but again, not enough to make me come.
I don’t know why I can’t make myself orgasm without them…. maybe it’s because I’ve always used them so never experimented and learnt how to pleasure myself properly, or my pussy is desensitised from years of vibrators. Although I’m quite lazy, so if a machine can give me an amazing orgasm with minimal effort, then that’s what I’m going to do.
I used to think that no-one could make me come without my toys but have discovered that isn’t true as I’ve several sugar daddies who manage just fine without them; and whilst my orgasms aren’t a priority when I’m working, it’s always a bonus when I have one.
I do use toys with some of my sugar daddies; they’ll often suggest I bring my favourites so they can watch me bring myself off, or they’ll ask me to bring something to use on them. A few of my sugar daddies enjoy being fucked up the ass with a strap-on or being pleasured with a prostate vibrator; and cock rings are always useful for older sugar daddies who struggle to maintain an erection.
Occasionally a sugar daddy will surprise me by randomly pulling out a vibrator or another toy when we’re together, and whilst I don’t mind, I can’t help but wonder how many other women it’s been used on, and why they didn’t ask me to bring my own…
I on the other hand never surprise my sugar daddies with toys in the bedroom; I only bring them out if it’s something we’ve discussed and something I know they’re in to. Not all men want a strange object shoved up their ass, or to see me pleasuring myself with a toy when they’re there with the real thing, a few of them would be quite offended if I pulled out a vibrator in their presence.
I understand why some men feel threatened by toys though, I mean it must be a bit daunting to open your girlfriend’s bedside drawer and find a massive 10-inch cock when you’re 6 inches at best. Having solo fun with a toy is not the same as having fun with another person though, they’re totally different things; you can’t connect on an emotional or spiritual level with a piece of plastic (or I can’t anyway).
For men who are worried that toys are replacing them in the bedroom, and joke that they’ll soon be nothing more than ‘sperm donors’, that’s ridiculous. These are the same men who feel threatened by female emancipation in general though and yearn for a bygone era when women were dependent on men for everything; men with fragile egos who don’t understand or appreciate female sexuality.
Sex dolls are getting pretty advanced now, but I don’t feel threatened as I know that no amount of technology is going to be able to replace what I can offer as a real-life human being. Yes, lots of men would rather fuck a robot or a machine, but that’s their prerogative; and there’s normally a deep-seated psychological reason why. If a sex doll helps them get their needs met, then I don’t see anything wrong with that; plus, it’s not like there’s a shortage of men requiring the real thing…
Whilst I started using sex toys at a fairly young age, I stuck to the basics; it wasn’t until I started doing OnlyFans that my toy collection expanded and became more exciting as I could justify spending money on toys to create content. I bought certain toys to create specific videos which were requested by fans. I had so many requests to see me fucking a big black cock for example that I invested in a massive black dildo to film with (I didn’t have access to the real thing at the time so had to make do). I still have the dildo but rarely use it as I don’t want to stretch my pussy (have to look after the merchandise), plus I can access the real thing now which is so much better anyway…
I was always trying to come up with creative ways to film with my toys when I was doing OnlyFans, I made some pretty random videos; one of my favourites involving a suction cup dildo and an exercise ball. This was all during lockdown when I was bored and had far too much time on my hands though.
I’d love to be a toy tester for a company like Lovehoney though, I think I’d be really good at it; I’ve got loads of their stuff anyway. If anyone from Lovehoney is reading this then hit me up, let’s do a collab…
Like most things in life, sex toys are neither good nor bad, they’re just an aide which if used correctly can enhance our experiences in the bedroom. I don’t think anyone feels (or needs to feel) embarrassed about using them, in our culture anyway it’s fairly normal. I mean you can even buy them in supermarkets now; I’m not entirely sure who’s buying a dildo with their weekly shop, but I guess they must sell…
If you haven’t experimented with toys, then why not give it a go. Start with something basic and see how you get on; don’t be intimidated by the vast selection available, start simple. If you’re in a relationship and want to spice things up in the bedroom, then why not get your partner involved as well.
Whatever you do, have fun.
Emily-Rose xxx
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