Jamie was the second man I met from the site and married when we met; but he and his wife were no longer physically intimate. The marriage was lacking emotional connection, conversation between the two being limited and transactional; what are we having for tea, have you put the bins out, etc; you get the idea. She was no longer interested in him sexually, or any other way for that matter; and he was feeling pretty shit.
Obviously, I’ve only heard his side of the story, and she might disagree, but the whys and the wherefores are almost irrelevant. The fact of the matter was that he felt disconnected and rejected, so did what people naturally do in that situation and sought connection and acceptance from elsewhere.
Jamie isn’t exactly ‘well endowered’ and his penis is noticeably bent (like properly bent in the middle) when he gets an erection; apparently one of the reasons, according to his wife, why their sex-life was non-existent. She didn’t think much of his penis, or what he did with it, regularly comparing him to her exes, who were all much bigger and better than him… of course. She made such an issue of it that Jamie considered undergoing surgery to straighten it, which would have resulted in losing some length, so thankfully he decided against it.
Jamie was self-conscious about his penis when we met, but with a little reassurance he was fine, and we consummated the ‘arrangement’ on that first night together no problem. In fact, we have a very successful sex-life, and it’s been great to see Jamie’s confidence grow during our time together. We’ve had sex in a variety of positions (several times) and his bent penis has never been an issue.
Don’t worry, I don’t intend to describe every penis I’ve ever fucked (I don’t have time), I only mention Jamie’s because very few men (if any) have straight penises, most seem to veer off in one direction or another, but unless you’ve got some sort of pretzel situation going on, you’ll probably find a way to make it work! Apparently, women don’t have straight vaginas anyway, so maybe they were just a bad fit, or she had a vagina like a curly wurly or something…
When we first got involved it was all a bit vanilla, but as the months went on and we got to know each other better, he became open to trying other things; things he’d been curious about but never had the chance to explore. He wanted me to take control and be dominant, so we got the toy box out and started experimenting with whips, handcuffs, cock-rings and vibrators. At the age of 66, Jamie tried anal for the first time and allowed me to return the favour a few months later (with a strap-on obviously). It’s been great fun helping Jamie explore his sexuality and learn how to express himself in the bedroom; and I’m really proud of how far he’s come (insert your own joke here).
So, the sex works, but that’s only a small part (ha ha) of our arrangement. Jamie didn’t just want sex, he wanted someone to spend time with; an attractive female companion to inject some fun and excitement into his life… and I was the perfect person to fill his void (ahem) and provide him with the stimulating company he was craving.
We have lots in common, and both love the theatre and live music; I must cost him a fortune in theatre tickets, but he doesn’t mind, apparently I’m worth it (I mean obviously). We love going to London for the weekend and doing the whole West-End thing, and we’re both foodies, so enjoy eating and drinking out a lot (both in frequency and sheer volume).
We’re equally content at home chilling on the sofa with a cuppa and The Times crossword or watching some random shit on tv though. Our guilty pleasure is ‘married at first sight’, if you’ve never seen it, it’s alarmingly addictive. I applied for the show one night when I was drunk, unsurprisingly they didn’t get back to me, can’t imagine why…
We average around six nights a month together, more if we’re going away somewhere, and message or talk on the phone every day. We’ve both been through some tough times over the last few years, but we’ve supported each other through them. Jamie might be my sugar daddy, but he’s also a friend and practically part of the family at this point. It’s very much what you would call the ‘girlfriend’ experience, which is different to my other arrangements which are more casual, and less time consuming (thank God!).
Obviously, Jamie knows that I see other men, and that what we have is an arrangement and not a relationship; which he finds difficult at times. Things aren’t always good, and we’ve had our fair share of arguments and falling outs over the years. In the heat of the moment, we’ve both threatened to end the arrangement and walk away, however we always make up, as I think we both (for different reasons maybe) realise that what we have is too good to throw away.
Whilst I couldn’t cope with more than one Jamie in my life and I’m grateful that my other sugar daddies are less demanding; I also realise how incredibly lucky I am to have Jamie around and really appreciate all the amazing things we get to do together.
He’s already booked a get-away for our 4th anniversary, so it doesn’t look like he’s planning to trade me in anytime soon.
Thank you for everything you do for me Jamie.
Emily-Rose xxx
A word of advice: if you want your partner to be better in bed, telling them how shit they are compared to your exes is not the way to go! Comparing people in bed and making them feel shit will not give them the confidence to up their game or try something new. If your partner isn’t giving you what you want or need, don’t be a twat about it. Instead, be honest about what you need and what turns you on; and what you enjoy or would like to try. So many of the men I see have endured years of unsatisfactory, boring sex. Honestly guys, life’s too short to be having bad sex… unless like me, you’re being paid for it.
Disclaimer: If you’re into something really niche, maybe coming home with a giant cot and adult diapers after 25 years of missionary might be a bit much, so test the water with something smaller first…maybe just a packet of wet wipes or something.
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