Being a sugar baby, it’s important to be adaptable, as you never quite know who you’re going to meet and who’s going to want to pay for your company. I like to think I’m fairly versatile and able to manage myself in whatever situations I find myself in, a bit of a social chameleon if you like; or maybe just a massive people pleaser, either way it doesn’t matter; what matters is that I’m able to adapt who I am to be whatever is needed in that moment.
As you’d imagine, there’s not an awful lot of cultural diversity down the far end of Cornwall, not many make it down that far, but being a sugar baby has given me the chance to spend time with people I wouldn’t have the opportunity to otherwise; and who aren’t in some way related to me… always a bonus!
I appreciate spending time with people from different cultural backgrounds and hearing about their experiences, and I’ve been lucky enough to be involved with men from all over the world, all shapes, sizes, ethnicities and religions. There’s still so much I don’t know though, so am always asking questions, and wanting to know more. Thankfully most of my sugar daddies are pretty open and don’t mind my curiosity/ nosiness. In return I’m more than happy to talk about myself and answer their questions; it’s a two-way thing.
I’ve come to find that if you’re genuinely interested in understanding another person’s experiences and where they’re coming from, then they’ll take the time to explain. Whether it be about their religion, gender, sexual orientation, political beliefs or whatever, I believe it’s better to ask then make assumptions that are incorrect, or heaven forbid rely on inaccurate or harmful stereotypes. As long as you ask in a respectful manner, and you’re prepared to listen in a non-judgemental way, people don’t seem to mind; and if someone doesn’t want to talk about something, they can always tell you to bugger off (or a polite alternative).
Having had a relatively sheltered upbringing, I’m often introduced to new things, and have had many firsts with my sugar daddies, most of which I’m happy to say have been enjoyable.
My first time eating oysters wasn’t quite so enjoyable though; for someone who swallows for a living, I really struggled! It was like swallowing mouthfuls of slimy gritty sea water full of sand and bits of shell, it was awful. I just sat there, unable to talk, my mouth full of oyster (and God knows what), gulping down wine in an attempt to wash it down. I don’t think I’ve ever felt more like a farmer’s daughter…
There have been several times where I’ve fucked up, like the time I ordered a pork dish when I was with one of my Muslim sugar daddies. Thankfully (as a result of the horrified look on his face) I realised straight away what I’d done and quickly changed my order. It wasn’t a big deal, but sparked an interesting conversation as to why he doesn’t eat pork, which was for a very different reason then I thought…
We all get things wrong every now and then, but that’s how we learn, right? And if people can see you’re genuinely trying, they’ll forgive the odd mistake.
Like most people, I wear different hats (metaphorically speaking), for work, as a parent etc, I’m different people to different people; and whilst it’s true that some of my sugar daddies get to see more of my authentic self, it’s also true that different sugar daddies draw out different sides of my personality. Some men want a slut, whilst others want a respectable lady, some men like to take me out to eat at fancy restaurants, whilst others want to chill in front of the tele; you quickly learn which parts of yourself to bring to the table, and which to leave at home.
At the end of the day, as a sugar baby I’m providing a tailor-made service to each one of my sugar daddies, and part of that is being the woman they want me to be. The better I am at giving them what they need, the happier they are, the more they’ll want to see me, and the more money I’ll make, it’s that simple!
However, if what they want is something I don’t feel comfortable providing, or they want me to be someone who is totally incompatible with my authentic self and my values, then I don’t take them on as a client; I may bend over backwards for my sugar daddies, but I’m not prepared to bend so far as to break.
I think it was Charles Darwin who said something like ‘it is not the strongest or the most intelligent of the species that survives, but the one most adaptable to change’; which really resonates with me. Having said that, it’s a balancing act, as whilst we all need to adjust and adapt to those around us, we mustn’t lose sight of who we are, where we come from and what we value.
Till next time, keep it real!
Emily-Rose xxx
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